I Missed National Coming Out Day!

National Coming Out Day is October 11, annually. It somehow slipped my mind!  

But one of my favorite gay adult actors (porn), go-go boy and bloggers, Beaux Banks (featured throughout this post) - didn't. He shared the above pictures of himself along with this all important message: "Coming out wasn't easy but now my life is! Here's to living out and free!" 

When he first began appearing in gay adult movies, I didn't particularly care for Mr. Banks as he was very modest about being seen with his penis hanging out, uncovered. He seemed to always cup it into the palm of his hands or discretely conceal his man-tool behind a hat, a bandana or any other accessory he could find.

As the images above clearly demonstrate, he's most definitely all out and proud now! 

Peace! Get naked. Enjoy!

Bare With Pride

Friday Footnote: Having Sex In Your Childhood Home

Earlier this week, my blogging brother and buddy, Kishna, author of A Gayte Keeper I Am, published an entry on his site asking reader's reactions to a situation that occurred when he accompanied his boyfriend to his home for the winter holidays. Click the title to read the post and comments, Is Sex In Your Childhood Home Okay Or Disrespectful?  I read the post as I am familiar with both he and his boyfriend and was curious as to what prompted the posting. 

Please read my friend's article before reading my foot-note here. Thanks! And before anyone gets the wrong idea, I'm not posting any images of two men having sex here. But I am showing a gif image of two men kissing!

This is a timely topic that I think affects many of us in the gay community. Due to the changing attitudes towards same gender love and the fluidity of marriage equality, this situation is probably more common than many of us realize. It can also create a resounding death-knell for many otherwise happy and stable relationships. 

With marriage equality being a fairly recent phenomena that isn't widely available to all of us, the acceptance of gay relationships doesn't have the same legitimate or legal sanction for us as it does for same gender challenged couples. Therefore, families confronted with having a gay couple visit overnight or longer are confronted with their traditional beliefs being "put-to-the-test" by the reality "under their roof."

Of course, we all know that there is no fool-proof answer to this question. Family dynamics vary from household to household and no two families are identical. Everyone of us is inevitably going to have to base their decision on their particular family situation. This is especially true if there are to be other guests staying in the home during the same period. 

In my own case, since Twin and I both came out during our teen-age years, it was always understood that when we brought a partner into the family home, that we'd sleep together. The first time that I met Aaron's parents, we didn't share the same bedroom. After we were married in August, 2015, it became a moot issue. We now share the same bed when we're at his parents.  

As same gender loving couples, it is important, for the sake of harmony, that we respect the feelings of others while we're guests in their home. If we're legally married, then we can ask to be permitted to sleep together (share the same bed). If we're not married, then we should leave well enough alone.

Peace! Get naked. Enjoy!

Bare With Pride

My Blogging Buddy, Jerome: Bare And Proud

Meet Jerome, above, one of my fellow-bloggers and a man who is not ashamed of his bare body nor of being proud and gay. I first met Jerome back in 2012 when I discovered his blog on Tumblr.com. I was impressed with the fact that he had no qualms on sharing his nudity with everyone who happened upon his site. A true man like myself. If you're going to be naked, it is much better to be open about it and proud than shy and timid. Right? 

Due to Jerome's courage and pride in being bare and publicly publishing his nudity through his blogs, he's perfect to feature on Guys Without Boxers: Bare With Pride for 2016 Bare GLBT History Month! 

Because of his confidence in being the man that he is, Jerome has been one of my favorite bloggers. With his images that accompany this post, I'm sure all of you will agree with me that he is worthy of the admiration that I give him as an out, proud and exceptional gay man. He is indeed a role-model for any of our aspiring bare, same gender loving youth. Hooray for Jerome! 

He hails from Chicago, Illinois. Jerome's blog features not only pictures of his nudity but also of other men gleaned from the internet. Please be advised that it may not be suitable for a workplace environment. You may visit his site by right-clicking the direct link here: Bluja. I know you'll enjoy his collection of men! Also, check out his original blog, All Things Bluja (NSFW) which features images of himself, exclusively.

Author's Note: The pictures contained in this interview post here are all property of the subject, Jerome, and may not be used without his permission. Thanks!

Jerome Interview: Part I: Nudity

1. Growing up, what were you taught about nudity and being seen naked with others?

It was something we were not supposed to do. They always tried to hide any kind of nudity in movies we watched or (they) had me turn my head or would cover my eyes. No, I never peeked. I did as I was told as a kid and even as a young adult!

2. As a teenager, how did you feel being naked with your peers in the locker room while changing for gym class?

I was never comfortable as a teen being nude among my peers. It most likely had to do with my my same sex attraction and not wanting to be outed. 

3. Did you ever skinny-dip (swim naked) with friends or family when younger? 

No, I did not. I can't swim so I'm naked safely now in only four feet of water! LOL!

4. At what age did you discover that you were comfortable being completely clothes-free around others? 

I was 20 years old.

5. Briefly describe your first experience being socially nude among your peers. Were you anxious or nervous? 

It was in a health club locker room. It was fun being among other nudes...in the steam room and the shower areas. 

6. Are you an active member of any gay nudist club or organization? 

No.

7. Are you open about your nudity preferences with your friends? How did they react?

Yes! Most of them welcome it. It's been welcomed but not always out of pure nudity. Some of my friends have joined me in being nude and it sometimes ended in being touched and grabbed. It's not always about sex, but I understand that at the same time, it isn't always welcomed. 

8. Any interesting and/or embarrassing nudist moments that you care to share?

Once in the locker room, I was in the steam room area without a towel and I got a full erection. It would not go down, so I walked back to my locker and got dressed. 

9. Any advice to offer anyone considering the clothes-free life? 

Do it! LOL! It makes things easier. I like feeling free and unrestricted. I think people make a big deal out of bodies and nudity and it really isn't a big deal. 

Jerome Interview Part 2: Being Gay

1. Within your household, what were you taught about being gay or same gender loving while growing up?

This was something that wasn't accepted. My Mom was okay with her gay friends when I was a boy, but it was different when it was her own son. 

2. Growing up, did you know of anyone who is gay or same gender loving? Did you ever seek advice or discuss your same gender attraction with them?

Unfortunately, no. 

3. At what age did you acknowledge/internalize that you are gay or same gender loving? Did you have any gay or same gender loving friends among your peers?

I always thought I was different, but I realized it at the age of 18. There was this older kid who used to stare at our dicks and played with us. However, when older he acted like it all never happened - older being 16! LOL!

4. Are you openly gay to your family and friends now? How did your family react when you shared this with them? 

Yes, I am open about being gay. At first, my family didn't like it but they gradually got over it. My friends weren't surprised and are okay with it. 

5. Did you encounter any problems reconciling your sexual orientation and your faith beliefs?

No.

6. Much has been written about homophobia in the Black-American community. What are your thoughts/observations on this?

There are so many gays in the Black-American community, I believe that everyone knows someone who's gay. However, people seem to go both ways if it is accepted or not. The younger people seem not to care while the older ones seem to hold on to old beliefs. 

7. Any words of wisdom or advice to gay teens/youth?

Don't let anyone pressure you into doing anything that you don't want to do. 

8. Any thoughts on where you'd like to see the equal rights movement progress in the future?

I would like to see transgender people included, accepted and respected. 

Jerome Interview Part 3: Blogging

1. Have you always been interested in writing?

No, I have not.

2. For your blogs, you rely primarily on pictures to convey messages to your readers. Do you enjoy photography?

I love imaging and photography. Pictures can give an interpretation of ones perception of things. The imagination can run wild with it.

3. How did you begin blogging on Tumblr.com? 

I had just broken-up with my boyfriend. I was bored and came across Tumblr and started posting pictures of me and other pictures online.

4. Any thoughts/advice you'd like to offer to those who may be interested in creating their own blogs?

Be sure it's something you want to do, especially if it contains nude photos of yourself. The pictures and videos never go away. They will make their way back to you.

5. Any blogger in particular who inspires you?

Seraphnick, blackcolumbus, nakedartisan, sonoftituba, alter-ego86...There are more but these guys do what I like and admire and that is showing themselves completely naked in spirit, emotionally and, of course, physically. 

6. Any challenges in blogging that you hope will be addressed in the future?

The policy of no posting of nude videos. LOL!

Thank you, Jerome, for agreeing to give this interview, for all of your cooperation in the process and for the terrific photographs that you provided. I know that I will be forever in your debt, my bare blogging brother! 

Please remember to visit Jerome's blog by clicking the link here: Bluja. I can let you know now that you won't be disappointed! He also has another blog: All Things Bluja. Take a look at that one as well. 

I've created another page to supplement A Guy Without Boxers: Bare With Pride. The title of this page is Page of Bare Fame. Click the title to see more bare photos of Jerome that I didn't have space to include here. Once again, my sincere appreciation to Jerome for providing this interview. This won't be the last time that Jerome will be featured here. 

Much love and many naked hugs, Jerome!

Peace! Get naked. Enjoy!

Bare With Pride

Ten Reasons Why Gay Guys Can Have Sex & Still Be Friends

My friend and blogging buddy has posted on his site, A GayteKeeperIAm, an outstanding article on some of the top ten reasons why same gender loving men can be intimate with one another and remain friends. For many, this phenomena of staying close after sex has stereotypical connotations yet, upon closer and honest scrutiny, is absolutely true for not only myself but countless others. 

As men who have sex with men (MSM), we are somehow able to avoid the awkwardness of being physically intimate with a man and stay close friends with him after the sexual encounter. It has happened to me (more than once) and quite a number of gay friends of mine. Maybe there is a gay DNA gene that makes us different from heterosexuals in this respect. If for no other reason, this aspect of being same gender loving makes me happy that I am the bare gay man that I am!

Here's the title of his post: 10 Reasons Why Gay Guys Can Have Sex & Still Be Friends. Click the title to be linked directly to his blog.

Author's Note:  The photo above is of the Black-Italian adult gay actor, Dominic Santos, and one of his fellow actors. It is not of my blogging brother and myself.

Peace! Get naked. Enjoy!

Bare With Pride

Friday Footnote: Snow Day!

As a major winter weather event (snow) threatens both the mid-Atlantic, northeastern and New England regions of the USA today, the guys above may not have blizzard conditions on their mind. Obviously, the trio are undressed and have other activities on their minds! Nothing is better than being bare in the warmth of sunshine! 

This is just a reminder that happier and warmer days are slowly on the way to the above-named regions. In two months time, Spring returns! I know that I can barely wait! 

Aaron (my husband) and I are hibernating and bare all weekend long. We have no need to depart our cozy, warm condo! 

A special note of gratitude to Barry West, a fellow blogger and a reader here, for his forwarding the above image. Check out his blog, Tales of West Hollywood. Thanks, Barry!

Peace! Get naked. Enjoy!

Bare With Pride

Bottom-Shaming: Check This Out

My blogging buddy and friend, Kishna, the author of the blog, GayteKeeper, a few days ago published an excellent article calling for the end of bottom-shaming. This is the practice of marginalizing the passive (bottom) partner in a same gender loving relationship (hook-up) for the growing number of HIV infections. 

For more than thirty years in the HIV/AIDS pandemic, we're still playing the counter-productive blame-game for the transmission of this disease. Instead of pointing fingers and trying to shift responsibility to others, we should all "man-up" and acknowledge our own culpability, work together and end this epidemic. 

To read his excellent post, click on the direct link: It Is Time To End Bottom Shaming.  

Thank you, Kishna, for your love and service to our same gender loving naturist/nudist community.

I strongly urge everyone to visit his site and to carefully read the posting!

Peace! Get naked. Enjoy!

Bare With Pride